Dating Advice and Tips

The Long Distance Relationship.

As the saying goes, absence makes the heart grow fonder, but is that any reason to try a long-distance relationship? Research suggests that people in long-distance relationships tend to build up their partners best qualities in their mind, which can cause problems once the distance gap is narrowed.

Researchers suggest that one of the reasons long distance relationships last is because they are prone to be more romantic and they generally seem to describe their relationships to each other in unrealistically positive terms. As an example, people in long distance relationships tend to reminisce about their partner in a more positive way. These positive feelings lead them to believe they have a lot more in common than they really do. People in long distant relationships usually have the advantage of making a good impression when they are visiting and perpetuating a artifically optimistic relationship. In other words, people in long distance relationships rarely get to see all the daily ups and downs of the person they are dating, their mood swings and or other behavior. Once the distance gap is shortened and the couple moves into closer proximity, these “idealizations” can lead to frequent break-ups. Too much distance prevents partners from learning about each other’s negative qualities--potentially creating an overly positive impression.

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A relationship can be a happy one while people are living further apart, but this false sence of reality can become quite disappointing once they move closer together.

Research suggested that long distance relationships have a better chance of lasting if you can increase the quality as well as the frequency of interactions. There are plenty of ways to increase communication! Webcams, test messaging, phone calls and emails can all supplement face-to-face communication.

Good communication skills are also very important - you have to be willing to clearly express how you feel. Make sure to talk to your partner as if you saw your partner every day. This is also a good time to explore non-physical intimacy. When its not possible to be physically close, you and your partner may want to develop other creative and unique ways to become more intimate. People who take active and conscious steps to get know each other will have a more realistic perception of their relationship and have a better chance of making their long distance relationships LAST!


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