Relationship advice for people looking for love.
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When to Spend and When to Splurge.
Taking someone out doesn't have to be expensive if you know when to splurge and where you can save. Some of the toughest dating issues, especially early on in a relationship, involve how much money you should spend on a date.
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| What the high and low limits I should spend without looking like a dork? At what point in a relationship should I splurge a little? And when is the best time to go all out and really let loose? How deeply into a relationship can I go and still have a cheap date be OK?
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Well, there’s no hard and fast rule on this issue to give you a concrete answer to this question but there are a few guidelines you can follow to help you figure out how much dough to let loose. Here are a few suggestions:
Relax, You Don’t Have to spend like a drunken sailor.
You should never spend more than you’re able to. That’s a great place to start. You may want to go all out and do it up big - which can impress a date - but you should never feel as if you should absolutely spend a lot of money. Yes, there are certain events that simply cost more than others but if you feel pressure to lay down some serious doe and worry that if you don’t, you won’t get a second date, then, maybe this isn’t the kind of person you should be spending your time or your money on anyway.
With that said …
A Good Date could be worth Investing.
By “relationship” we don’t suggest that you will necessarily be destine for marriage and we’re not talking about a financial investment. Regardless of if it’s early or late in a relationship, it’s important from time to time that you show the other person you’re making a real effort to plan a date that’s fun and meaningful. Any effort or thoughtfulness on your behalf should go a long way toward creating a real connection.
Good Dates should also be about just taking it easy and Being Together .
Once you’ve gotten into a rhythm in your relationship, you may want to just hang out and chill in front of the TV once in a while - if that’s something you both enjoy doing. When you’re just getting to know each other, you don’t have to spend endless hours planning the perfect date that complicated and expense. There’s nothing wrong with just going to a cheap burger joint just so you can talk about who you each are or taking in a ball game, or going out with friends. The point is, dating is about getting to know each other. So make an effort to provide the environment and opportunity for that to happen.
You Don’t Want to be Cheap.
As before, it’s not necessary that you rent a white limo every time you plan something to do together.
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And your date needs to understand that going out frequently - even for just dinner or movie - can become expensive. There are plenty of dates you can go on that don’t cost a lot of money but show that you’ve put at least some thought into how you are going to spend your time together. You can go: hiking, to a museum, attend a free concert in the park, etc.) Still, keep in mind that there are times when there’s just no way around shelling out some dough. For example, you may need to spring for valet parking instead of saving a couple of bucks by making your date walk six blocks in stilettos. And if she’s wearing stilettos, it’s probably worth the extra money. …
Thoughtfulness can often keep you from spend a lot of Money but the opposite isn’t always true.
In other words, spending lots of money isn’t always going to do the trick when it comes to planning a good date. Money can present all kinds of opportunities for fun and an interesting date but a thoughtful, well-planned evening that costs $35 can sometimes make a much better impression than an expensive evening that shows no creativity.
If you boil these principles down, the big question is, when it comes to how much to spend on a date, it’s really less about money and more about effort. If you don’t have a lot of cash to spend, then make sure you offer what you do have: your creativity, your thoughtfulness, your time. Anyone of any substance is going to be grateful for this. And if you do have plenty of money and don’t mind spending it on dates, just make sure you don’t rely on money alone to create a memorable evening. Add in the personal touches that make your time together unique. What matters most is that you let your date know you care enough to plan an evening out where you’ll both have fun and the chance to enjoy each other’s company.
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